Most of us when we meet someone we really like do everything we can for them. We’re on time for dates, we ignore work calls while we’re with them, we agree to go out for African food instead of suggesting a good old cheeseburger, we watch that independent black and white film instead of the latest blockbuster…
Well, okay. Scratch those last two. At least if you’re me.
But most of us do try to accommodate the ones we love (or like).
Problem is, sometimes the other person is in it for different reasons than we are. We’re busy falling in love while they’ve just found someone accommodating so figure why the hell not go along with it.
See, as long as you’re making someone’s life easy and doing everything they want, it’s not too hard for them to put up with you. You only really find out how someone feels about you when you say “no” or don’t give them what they want.
So I say disappoint them. Let them down. Say no every once in a while.
If they really care for you, they’ll recover from it. They might take a moment, but as long as it’s a one-off occurrence they’ll work through it and accept the fact that you can’t be what they want you to be 100% of the time.
If they’re just in it for what they can get out of you, they’ll throw a little hissy fit or walk away.
That’s okay. Let ’em go. Because if they can’t handle a little compromise every once in a while they really weren’t the one for you.