Picture me saying that in a slightly exasperated, you’ve disappointed your mother sort of way.
A friend of mine has been valiantly trying online dating this year. She did well and found a boyfriend for a while, but it didn’t work out so she’s currently in the midst of round two. And the stories she can tell…
Like the guy who used her e-mail address to friend her on Facebook before they’d even gone on one date. (Don’t do that.)
Or the guy who asked her to text him each morning when she woke up even though they hadn’t met yet. (What the???)
Or the one who texted her non-stop at all hours of the day. (As she said, I have a job, don’t you?)
(You can see why I don’t give out my number if I can avoid it until I’ve met a guy in person and determined he isn’t insane.)
She’s also experiencing the usual, standard ones that every girl runs into. Like the guy who put on forty pounds and then posts only old photos of himself and talks in his profile about how much he likes to jog and hike even though it’s clearly been a while since he did anything active. (Uh, women aren’t blind, buddy…)
And I say boys, but these are grown-ass men we’re talking about. Somewhere in the thirty or forty-year-old range.
Don’t do that shit.
If you’re a guy and you read any of that and recognized yourself in those comments then you may want to check out my book Don’t Be A Douchebag. It’s currently on sale for 99 cents. Buy it, read it, and save us all a little bit of pain and suffering, because finding a good match is hard enough without some of the shit guys pull (knowingly or unknowingly).
Oh, and if you’re a woman who recognized some of that behavior, you might want to read Online Dating Is HELL which basically just rants about the same things I tell men not to do in Douchebag. It, too, is on sale for 99 cents right now.
(Of course, if you’re new to online dating, don’t read those books. Keep your starry-eyed optimism as long as you can.)